"If it's always about their needs and they never help meet yours, you have to ask yourself if it's really healthy for you." Cut your friend some slack if he or she is going through a hard time, but if it becomes par for the course, make your concerns heard.Close friends can sometimes fall into a trap of competing against each other, especially if they are in the same line of work or have similar lifestyles, says Bonior."Was in to engage in some behavior they know you wouldn't be on board with or supportive of?That would be a really scary place to be, because it's a strategy they might continue to use," she says.Or maybe your friend only ever wants to talk about him or herself, and never about you."Some people just take from friendships without giving anything back," says Bonior.Signs of a toxic relationship are sometimes easy to spot—blatant infidelity or physical violence, for example.
But if you catch a friend or romantic partner in a lie, it's important to look at that person's motivations, says Quirk.
No matter what the reason, make it clear that dishonesty won't be tolerated in your relationship, especially if you've notice a pattern that's likely to keep repeating.
Maybe you're the one who always reaches out, or you always make more of an effort to actually get together.
To help you do just that, here are 30 signs you've entered toxic territory—and what you may be able to do about it."One of the first signs of a toxic relationship is when one partner is very controlling," says Bonior.
Controlling doesn't always mean physically threatening or violent.