And nearly every time, Alex has become so aroused he must have “my needs met.” He laughs, then adds, “Once I’m taken care of, it makes it easier for me to let somebody else (screw) my wife.” He guesses his wife has slept with “about 20” other men — all different flavors, but all bigger than average (and bigger than Alex) where it counts. “If you’ve never done it, I can’t explain it,” says Alex. People say it’s because we’ve been married so long and we’re bored. We have a great sex life together, but we’re both adventurous. Both insist they’re immune from jealousy: “It’s only sex,” Susan says.
She knows I’m watching and that turns her on, too.” Occasionally, they engage in a full swap, which means Alex will have sex with the other man’s wife; or a soft swap, which means no penetration — he can receive oral sex from a woman with Susan’s blessing. “We’re not falling in love with them.” Whatever your sexual appetite — say, you both want to be with a woman, or you both want to be with a man, or she wants to be with several men at once, or she likes husky men and you crave female leprechauns with foot fetishes — well, you can find it out there.
Chris Christie on his back, Alex turns to me and says, “This is hot, isn’t it? “Most people think swinging is done by a small group of sexual deviants,” Alex says. has a monthly calendar of events and a list of swingers groups in every state.
As he delivers the play-by-play, in a voice that’s half Marv Albert, half Lance Armstrong after climbing the Alps with a broken gear and Gov. ” The woman, Susan, a 43-year-old brunette, is oozing out of a clingy white V-neck sweater. The listing — one of dozens posted for New Jersey each month — announced to male members that the couple would be on the prowl tonight, looking for someone to satisfy her. We’re regular people.” He wants to drive home the point. Although our research found that many profiles are obviously bogus, and a lot of swingers (or posers) have more than one account, that’s still a lot of recreational sex. Try adultfriendfinders or (Swingers Date Club), or or or personal ads on Craigslist or one of the New Jersey swinging groups.
Also, in your bio, you say you're looking for a relationship.
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“I’ve had big and small, and there’s no comparison.” Alex and Susan estimate they have been on about 25 hot dates over the past several years. (In case you were wondering: The landscaper lived up to his billing, and at last check, had scheduled a return engagement.) Why should a husband want to watch another man have sex — often great (or, at least, better) sex — with his wife?
He had to have stamina, had to agree to safe sex and had to be willing to be watched and possibly videotaped during sex.
Oh, and he also had to be willing to pay for the hotel room. About a dozen men (all sizes, all races, all ages and physiques — from beer guts to washboard abs) respond to the post.
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